Finding a spouse for my son / daughter

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As a part of nation building it is important to build stable households.

This means;  men fulfilling their role as biblical men and women fulfilling their role as biblical women.

We must raise our children according to the role that they must fulfill in life.

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We must think as a nation; no longer think as an individual

We get married for our nation; to keep our nation alive also in the future

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In Babylon many of us would choose our partners ourselves, without even consulting our parents.

The idea of strategic nation building was not in our mind.

Now that our eyes are open, we will do it different and be heavily involved in the courting and marriage process of our children. Just like in the days when we were a nation in our land.

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How do you find a spouse for your son / daughter?

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Find respectable families in your area that have the same understanding about:

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the role of the biblical man

the role of the biblical woman

marriage: monogamy / polygyny

order

domestic discipline (wife and children)

submission / obedience

homesteading

The name of the Most High

The name of The Son

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Connect and fellowship with those families

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See which one of their children could be a good match for your son / daughter

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We must look at:

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What can their son offer our daughter?

How much land does their son have?

Is your son a hard worker?

Is your son discplined?

How will your son provide for our daughter?

What are his posessions?

Where will they live?

What works did their son do in his life

What are her skills?

Is your daughter a silent women?

Is she submissive?

What are his plans for the future?

What are his talents and skills

What are his positive traits?

What are his negative traits?

What are his / her illnesses?

etc.

 

Basically ask many questions and investigate.

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Courting and marriage

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After finding a possible good match, set up a courting plan

Discuss dowry prices

Discuss wedding dates

Discuss the do's and the don'ts concerning how the families will treat each other

Discuss how the communication and counsel will go in times marriage struggles

Discuss who will take care of the parents when they are in old age.

Discuss the Thora law concerning marriage and accept it; let there be a clear understanding of Thora law between the two families.

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After the wedding ...

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Let the new couple build the nation, multiply and repeat this with their own chlildren

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"We live our life for the future of our nation"

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